RELATIONSHIP talks: OKI

RELATIONSHIP REAL TALK: THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN:

°As a man who gets into a relationship with a lady, you pay for the sins of every man that messed her up before you met her. Her father, her ex(es) etc. Because the trauma from her suffering typically overshadows the wisdom from her experiences.

°Women do not improve with use. 

They deteriorate. Deep down everybody knows this. This is why being the first love of "a woman of a good father" is the best shot you'll ever have. This is why traditionally women were married off young as virgins. Because women are fragile, and as they accumulate experience they accumulate trauma that ruins them for romance.

°The feminine is not built for stress. 

It is the masculine that is forged through the traumas of suffering, not the feminine. Women who actively have to work on being feminine aren't ascending to a higher stage, they're trying to get back something they had, but lost to suffering.The feminine is in its natural state, complete. The same cannot be said for the masculine. 

°The masculine undergoes a journey which requires the integration of the shadow and the shedding and loss of innocence to truly self-actualise. Women attempting the same journey will implode. There is no man you would truly consider a man who hasn't made a trip to hell.Those are the fees we pay. That's the cost of being man.

°A woman who went to hell is a shadow of her former self because hell destroys femininity. Which is why it strengthens men and destroys women. Not every man survives hell though. The weak ones suicide, or become sociopathic–highly emotional, unbalanced and destructive men who lash out at everything aggressively in the same way your typical feminist woman does.

°But men can make the trip and be better for it. Women cannot. Men do "need to get in touch with their softer side" but not until they've been to hell, survived, made peace with it and come out the other end free of resentment and bitterness, but fortified by their experiences into a man. And it's a good woman's love that brings that out. The reason for this is simple: If you've been to hell, you became a monster to beat a monster, and if you're not careful, that monster will possess you (sociopathy). 

°Connecting with your softer side is thus a counterbalance to the evil that lurks within you and helps centre you. But if you have not made the trip to hell, never triggered your shadow, let alone even integrated it, and you're already "connecting with your softer side"–then you'll never survive the trip necessary to hell. You're taking steps back rather than forward. This is self-sabotage.

°A healthy masculine man is a man who has unlocked his inner darkness, but does not wish to be consumed by it. Such a man benefits from feminine warmth as it balances him rather than feminizes him. The same cannot be said for men who haven't unlocked the darkness. 

°Put another way, a boy who spends too much time around women is coddled and becomes feminized, never properly developing. But the unpossessed man who can wield evil, who spends time with women who care for him will only become kinder, not weaker. This is the difference. 

°If spending too much time around women feminizes you, it's because you've not paid your dues and been to hell, triggered your shadow and met your darkest self. And life has a way of making sure you pay your fees. 

°You can avoid the trip, but your weakness means it'll find you. And to be honest, it needs to find you. Because only then will you be strong enough to protect the women you care about from making that same trip–the very trip that ruins them, and makes them all but useless to us.

°Don't let your women go to hell.

Go for them, and evolve. And by go for them, I mean go so they don't have to. You're going for yourself first and foremost. They, like you are simply the beneficiaries of your journey. If the women in your family are making trips to hell, you've let them down. And that's why they're not feminine. 

Fact: 

°The men who have been to hell but didn't make the trip successfully are the ones who know how to be evil but can't control it, and thus become tyrannical and abuse that power to send their women to hell rather than to protect them from it. 

°Never be that guy. This is failure. She's either going to hell because you're a sociopath, or she's going to hell because you're a weakling who cannot protect her from the predatoriness of life. Either way, you've failed–because you haven't preserved her femininity.

°Femininity is fragile and easily snuffed out. Warm eyes, a coy stare, a gentle smile, a general cheeriness, a shy giggle, modesty, grace, a nurturing spirit, a caring and a pure heart.

°When was the last time you observed the captivating beauty of healthy femininity? 

°That's what's hard to cultivate and easily snuffed out. Their spiritual beauty is fragile. And when they lose their spiritual beauty, all that remains is their quasi impersonation of the masculine, and the negative elements of the feminine. 

°You will know what this looks like when you've met a couple of radical feminists. They are all damaged, failed women. It's very sad.

~OKI